Identity theft

I have been thinking a lot lately about how I derive my identity. As I was growing up who I was always was a function of my family. I was a son, brother or annoyance based on who my audience was. The problem with this is that I gave the power of my identity to someone else. I let them determine who I was. I still do this in how I interact with people today. I transfer to them the formation of my identity based on my title or positions, this is a sick way to live. If I am always allowing people to determine my identity than I have no consitency in my life. If I am a husband in one setting, a father in another and a something else somewhere else that I am not being true to my identity. I am all of these things, but do they define me? Am I more than a product of the roles I play? If I am than I have no choice but to find what that identity is and be true to it. If I can find my true idenity then I believe it will allow me to be a better husband father, and other things because I will be consitantly me.